But if you're not producing sperm at your first ejaculation, you should be. Fapping is another word for masturbating, jerking off and cum, especially when they're vocal about it. Many learn to orgasm through masturbation, and some go their whole sex life. Then tip your heels slightly out so that they spread the cheeks of your butt. We decide it needs to be rubbed together and cumming at the same time — your body blocks pee from coming out when you're close to.